the N word

Kramer – or Michael Richards in real life – professionally committed suicide.  His blunder will follow him to his grave, I’m sure.  You know the incident… the one in which he “lost it” in the middle of his comedy stand when 2 African American guys taunted him from the seats.  He lashed out and verbally punished those two black guys a couple of weeks ago, repeatedly calling them the N word… and clearly was enraged in his response.   To me this demonstrated a deep issue for him.  My take on the deal is this; I saw the clip, and I saw the apology.  He’s a comedian!  I believe he got mad, I believe he was truly enraged by whatever they did to taunt him.  In his response, it seriously seemed a little over-dramatic. 

Oh, I really do think he was mad.  And I think he probably didn’t mean to start the N-word thing, but he did.  It was absolutely cruel, out of line, and certainly sociably and morally unacceptable.  As for me, I think his apology was sincere.  His body language and total control and downtrodden nature on Letterman seemed legitimate.  Talk show and TV show hosts for the last 2 weeks have raved about this, and debated the situational use of the N-word to determine all manner of things; is there a double-standard by African Americans using it to describe one another, versus a Caucasian person saying it.

I have a mixed perspective on the thing.  Not that I approve of Richards, or approve of EVER saying “nigger” at all.  It’s an ugly, derogatory term that has never done anything but harm.  But I will share the other perspective as well.  My wife and I adopted a healthy baby boy in 2000.  We prayed and prayed for him, and when God sent him, he was a little boy of African American descent.  We rejoiced and learned, and prayed, and tearfully embraced our little boy of 3 weeks.  I never dreamed what I’m about to say would have ever happened.

One day after work at FedEx, when we first moved to Memphis, I was taking a young black guy home to the inner city.  I had been warned by my (also African American) boss, “don’t take that N home, man… it’ll never stop!”  I frequently heard the N word from one black guy to another, and never in any way felt it was being used in a derogatory way.  Well, I took the guy home.  I continued taking him home.  After he learned more about me, that I had “color” in my family, and that my sister-in-law was black as well, things really opened up.

The day came that he was cracking jokes, and we were talking very comfortably with one another.  Somehow we got into the discussion of what he would do if he saw me getting beat up (how I don’t remember).  I’ll never forget when he said, “I’d go to bat for you brah…”  -to which I responded, “why, man?”  His response was, “’cause you’re my N…” 

Jesse Jackson and many others are probably right for calling for all people – black or white – to cease using the N-word.  It’s use started in a derogatory way, and never has meant anything good.  But slang changes with the times…  How could I be a N?  I’m as Caucasian as they come!  The point is that when Gavin used that word toward me, the word meant friend.  Although… I still don’t think Jesus would ever use it… 

Jesus and the Woman at the Well

In John 4, a very unique event takes place in Jesus’ ministry.  While passing through Samaria to go to Galilee, the Apostles go into town to get food.  What follows is as powerful a story of the life, bread, water, blood, and ministry of Jesus that is recorded in the gospels. 

I remember some years ago seeing a modern-day drama depicting this woman’s encounter with Christ, and it was powerful to say the least.  The thing is, ya gotta read between the lines to get the whole story.  Beginning in verse 15, the woman bites the hook Jesus puts out there in front of her.  “Sir, give me this water (living water) so I will not be thirsty or come all the way here to draw.”

So the response by Jesus?  “go get your husband, and come here.”  What?  Has this guy been a fly on my wall or something?  There’s no telling what she might have thought.  You have to pause here… I wonder what the time span was before she answered him with, “I don’t have a husband.”  Even in the Samaritan standards, this woman had apparently lived an extremely immoral lifestyle.  She’s had 5 husbands?  I wonder how immoral she was – having disappointed 5 men enough to be divorced.  And now – the man she’s with is not her husband either.  We’re not told about it… but I would guess that this woman had not ONLY had 6 men in her life.

How did the people look at her in town?  How would she have been regarded by her peers?  When she walked up to a store window (indulge me here), and a family of 4 was there looking at the goods window-shopping, how might the family have treated her?  My mind’s eye imagines a father wrapping his arms around his children and his wife by the shoulder and quickly scurrying off so as not to be seen with such a woman.  But Jesus… offers her living water. LIVING WATER!  What in the world would that be…

This is NOT about marriage, divorce, and re-marriage.  This is about a woman at the end of her rope, in need of something she can’t get anywhere else.  Immoral?  Absolutely… but she has faith to some level.  And she declares, “I know Messiah is coming…”  Why would she just randomly bring that up?  Had this man shown her that he could be the one?  Jesus offers her enough evidence in his speech (and he plainly states that he IS) to convince her that He IS Messiah.

In verse 39, the text clearly says, “many of the Samaritans believed in Him because of the word of the woman…”  While we could finish the story and talk about the belief of others here, the greatest point to me is that this woman had apparently changed!  How else would “many of the Samaritans” believe because of her?  Jesus brought living water to this woman, and she changed.  How could she not?  After spending time with the Master, experiencing his boldness, kindness, his very existence – she would undoubtedly have no choice but to quit the awful life she had chosen to live.  That is what encounters with the Christ are about!  May God bless us with encounters with Christ ourselves, and give others simple reasons to believe in Him!

Prayer for solid ground

Father, for 10 years I’ve been married to the woman you gave me.  She has tried and tried, and is yet to train me…!  but I know I can be the leader I must be.  I wake up some mornings and wonder if I’m not the man I wanted to become.  But through the cross, I rest assured that faith overcomes.  My son whom I held and prayed to you for is now 6, and he humbles me every day.  He is a handsome, healthy, Godly young child who wants to make his Mama and Daddy proud.  He loves to laugh, loves to play, and loves to spend time with Daddy.  But Lord I’m not the pillar I need to be.  So often the time passes and I have lost grounding with the shifting sand, the time passing by, and the insecurity of the last year specifically.

You’ve answered so many prayers.  You have given, and given, and still I do not appreciate.  Father, forgive my past.  Forgive the days of no productivity and empower me to overcome.  Satan’s attacks are so real, and so penetrating.  His attempts to pull me down are never about my strength, but about my focus, my willpower to overcome, and my lack of solidarity.  Restore my spirit, Lord, with your Spirit once again.  The spirit that I once used to study for hours on end.  To read, the meditate, and pray.  Lord, send your rain to bring life again to the seeds of my heart.

Father, I am challenged by my daughter.  She is so full of life, such an amazing vitality for a 3 year old.  She has a strong will, and does not possess the simple humble spirit that her brother did.  Help me to remember they are different, and give me the patience to instruct the way she should go.  She tests me, and I often get angry.  I don’t know the best way to train her, to help her in correction, and straighten her paths when they seem crooked for a young child.  I love her so much and want her to be all she can be.  Father help Elizabeth & I to help them remain as stable as they can with their adoption, their identity, and never question their parents pure agape love.

Finally, help me be the man my wife fell in love with.  I’ve disappointed her sometimes, I’ve been less than my best, less that I know I should be too often.  Yet she confesses failure too and we are closer than we’ve ever been.  Lord, stabilize the ground under my feet, and help me to plant my feet at the cross which is the strongest foundation for my life.  I love you, Lord, but help me to show it, by being what you want me to be in my new job, as well as a husband and father.  In humble thanks and yearning for the future, help me to lean on the Master more every day.  In His name, amen.

Is Christianity more than do’s and don’ts?

There’s a song that begins, “Lord make me a servant, Lord make me like you…”  Christ was the greatest servant of all.  I cannot help but wonder what kind of open heart he must have nurtured to provide a place for the Spirit to work.  Along those lines, I came across these thoughts recently about the actions of the Christian. 
The following is a bit of text from pp. 126-127 of Chuck Colson’s Loving God.

A few years ago a brother in the order came to her complaining about a superior whose rules, he felt, were interfering with his ministry.  “My vocation is to work for lepers,” he told Mother Teresa.  “I want to spend myself for the lepers.” 

She stared at him a moment, then smiled.  “Brother,” she said gently, “your vocation is not to work for lepers, your vocation is to belong to Jesus.”

Mother Teresa is not in love with a cause, noble as her cause is.  Rather, she loves God and is dedicated to living His life, not her own, This is holiness.  It is the complete surrender of self in obedience to the will and service of God.  Or as Mother Teresa sums it up, complete “acceptance of the will of God.” 

Mother Teresa’s definition may sound rather nebulous to many Christians who have from childhood associated holiness with a long string of dos and don’ts.  But seeing holiness only as a rule-keeping breeds serious problems:  first, it limits the scope of true biblical holiness, which must affect every aspect of our lives.  Second, even though the rules may be biblically based, we often end up obeying the rules rather than obeying God; concern with the letter of the law can cause us to lose its spirit.  Third, emphasis on rule-keeping deludes us into thinking we can be holy through our efforts.  But there can be no holiness apart from the work of the Holy Spirit – in quickening us through the conviction of sin and bringing us by grace to Christ, and sanctifying us – for it is grace that causes us to even want to be holy.  And finally, our pious efforts can become ego-gratifying, as if holy living were some kind of spiritual beauty contest.  Such self-centered spirituality in turn leads to self-righteousness – the very opposite of the selflessness of true holiness.  – Charles Colson.

I don’t know much about Mother Teresa, seeing as my background is from the Restoration Movement heritage of the 19th-20th centuries.  But I love what I read of her life and spirit of holiness.  Also, I love Colson’s statement, “…there can be no holiness apart from the work of the Holy Spirit…”  It behooves believers in Christ to continue reading and studying the word of God, so we provide an adequate vessel for the Spirit of God to work in this world.  God knows, He needs ambassadors; the cool thing is that He doesn’t expect perfect people to be those ambassadors!  “We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God.  God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.”  – 2 Corinthians 5:20-21

“I AM” statements of Jesus

Lots of confusion abounds in the religious world today – especially between Christianity, Islam and Judaism.  All 3 of these world religions bear many, many similarities and connections from the creation through the time of Abraham.  Many years later, Moses inquired who was speaking to him in the burning bush in the wilderness – the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.  Later, he told Moses to go to Pharaoh in Egypt as Israel was enslaved, and tell him the “I AM” says, to “let my people go.” 

Enter Jesus; 1500 years later.  Jesus of Nazareth did many good deeds, but was far more than a carpenter’s son, or a magician, or a philosopher as history might paint him.  In the gospel of John, there are 8-10 “I AM” statements of Jesus.  The reason the number is variable depends upon interpretation.  There are in fact only 8 specific metaphorical “ego eimi” (= I AM) statements; the others are things such as “I am the son of God” to his disciples or as part of another sentence.  Those statements that are very familiar to his disciples are these; I am the living bread, I am from above, I am the light of the world, I am the door, I am the good shepherd, I am the resurrection and the life, I am the way, the truth, and the life, and I am the vine.  It’s interesting that Jesus makes these statements the way he does.  There have been many attempts to explain them, but in each context, Jesus is making a point about the object based on the immediate situation; be it bread in the context of feasts, light in the festival of lights (modern Hannukkah), or the means of entering pasture – the door.

But the most powerful statement of Jesus in the context of the I AM statements is in John 8:24.  “for if you do not believe that I am, you will die in your sins.”  Some translations inject “he” after the I am in that sentence, implying Jesus is referring to himself as the Messiah; however, there’s a problem with that simple little pronoun!  The issue is that the Greek New Testament does not include the pronoun “he”.  The passage should correctly be read “for if you do not believe that I am…” 

These statements are often referred to as they are in the Greek text; ego eimi (eggo ay-mee); simply stated?  “I AM”.  Jesus knew what he was doing, and who he was.  What remains is what will history do with him?  Will we reduce him to a meager human who was wise, did miracles (or healings), and philosopher?  He is so much more than just a prophet.  He is the bright and morning star; Messiah!  Ultimately, that is the only question.  What will we do with Jesus?  The only appropriate response to that question, is to respond as he wanted all his disciples to respond… “Yes you are” (the Messiah, the I AM).

the new Ellis digs…

Our new place rocks.  We relocated this last week from the beautiful and spacious Spring Hill, TN to the Green Hills area of Nashville.  More than anything it’s close to what we do MOST of the week which is in town; work, hobby, etc.  We’re about 2 mins. from Lipscomb University, and about 10 from where my office will be downtown for the Barbershop Harmony Society.  All I know is that it’s cool to finally throw JUNK away that you’ve needed to do for years, but never had the guts.  Move into a 2-bedroom place with a 4-person family, and you will see just how badly you need that extra box of junk you may never use again.  It’s a cool place, and plenty of room for hosting company.  We are so blessed that everything went smoothly and can’t wait to settle in.

Jackson Christian wins State Football Title

What an amazing experience!  Not so much for me, but for my bro-in-law, Grey Powell.  After being the underdog on the way into the state final game with a record of 11-3, the JCS Eagles knocked off the previously 14-0 Friendship Christian Commanders on Friday, Dec. 1.  The cool thing is this – Grey started this year and was added to a coaching staff with a brand new head coach, and almost an entirely new staff of coaches to boot.  Grey brought many things to the table; the spread offense, a knowledge of football that few 32 y/olds have, and most importantly (for a Christian school and football program) – spiritual clout.  While he doesn’t want or need the glory (God does… that’s the point!), Grey introduced the 4:13 principle (Phil. 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”) as something that the team should and must do to glorify God in all of their efforts.  It became something that the entire school became involved in, and praise God that JCS is focusing more on the Father than they have in a long time.  http://www.jcseagles.org  JCS Eagles

Granted, it’s football.  But doesn’t scripture remind us, “whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might.”?  As a coaching staff, a team, and a school, 4:13 became something that captivated the Eagles  nd gave them something bigger than themselves to fight for.  Not to mention, they’ve NEVER been to the State Championship, and most certainly never won.  Pretty awesome experience for the whole group over in Jackson.  Praise God for your focus on character, JCS!  Feel free to check out the story on the Facing the Giants’ website.  http://www.facingthegiants.com/news.php?id=2 

Barbershop Harmony for the Rockettes?

For those of you not local to Nashville – you might want to schedule your trip up to the Opryland Hotel to see the Christmas lights a little earlier this year!  While you’re at it, ALSO don’t forget to go see the fabulous Rockettes at the Grand Ole Opry.  Our local Men’s Barbershop chorus – the Music City Chorus – was fortunate enough to sing a 20-minute Christmas set on Tuesday night, opening the stage for the Rockettes.  What a blast! and more than anything the most fun was standing on the stage of the Opry-house, singing for what might have been 1500-2000 people, whom we don’t often get to entertain.  RockettesNashville Logo

It was a great Christmas show from all accounts (although I had to go save the baby-sitter and couldn’t stay long) and well worth the price of admission.  Tons of great choreography, dancing, singing, and SANTA!

2 Great CD’s for Kids

If you and/or your kids love music, you would short-change yourself if you didn’t buy this CD from a great group.  For the ChildrenI have never heard a more impeccable a cappella recording than this.  It’s a 2-CD set that kids will love.  It’s done by the 3-time (2004, 2005, and 2006) International Silver Medalist Barbershop Quartet, Max Q, but there’s NO barbershop on it.  Some folks love and some folks can “tolerate” barbershop, but these guys are just phenomenal singers and this is an all a cappella CD set that is full of sing-with songs for kids.  From Peter Pan’s “You Can Fly” to Toy Story’s “You’ve Got a Friend in Me” and all the way to a School-House rock medley.  The 2nd CD is full of lullabies, with songs like Mary Poppins’ “Stay Awake,” and a great lullabye from Dumbo – “Baby Mine.”  My kids love it and it even has several awesome spirituals.  Check ’em out at http://www.maxquartet.com

The 2nd is from some great friends – the Guyers – who have done several spiritual CD’s by the group name OneVoice.  Their OneVoice Kids CD is also phenomenal.  Great vocals, and lots of fun for the kids to sing with, b/c their own kids and some friends sing on it as well.  OneVoice KidsGreat contemporary worship and devotional songs, which are not just for kids.  You’d do yourself a favor checking out their website as well, they have 4 other great CD’s; “Hope”, “Praise & Worship 1 & 2”, and “Stained Glass”.  Check ’em out here:  http://www.onevoice-music.com

Radical Religion

It’s interesting.  On TV last night was a special about Radical Islam.  The opening portion of the show was to demonstrate how most Muslims live deeply faithful lives, and are not in fact violent.  However, the sect which has grown into a vengeful, terrorist sect of the Islamic faith has gained most of the attention.  This was ultimately the focus of the show.  I don’t intend to compliment the zeal of these Radical Muslims in any way – I rather believe their stated faith in the name of Allah as a cloak for acts of hatred and Jihad are wrong in many ways.  It is terribly sad to me that this takes place and children of my kindergartner’s age are already chanting prose and poetry of hatred toward the west and the great Satan.  Many of them can already quote books and books of the Quran.  I must respect the zeal which is centered on the Quran’s teachings.  As a Christian, I certainly don’t agree doctrinally with the Quran; but the fervor of the faithful to be pleasing to Allah is certainly a type of faith worth emulating.  This is not the story with the radical Muslims who have taken license to cause terror.  It was evident on (what I believe to be) the best TV show on the air, “Criminal Minds” last week, that almost all of the terrorism taking place in the name of Jihad is retribution, revenge, and deep sealed hatred that is only justifiable by twisting their Quran scriptures.

But as adamant as I am against terrorism – and especially terrorism cloaked in faith, I would be a fool not to take a lesson from it.  How many books of the Scripture can I quote, much less my kindergarten son quote?  Oh he knows the lessons, and frankly I’d put him up against any other kindergartner in a theological debate.  He can whip out, “huh uh… that doesn’t make God happy,” or “that’s not like Jesus” as good as anybody.  But most of us Americans have no clue about the role of faith and it’s depth to the people of the East.  God’s people need to become radical.  We need an hour of prayer, or rather hours of prayer.  We who claim Christ is the only way to God must be radical practitioners of piety.  What ever happened to holiness?  Not just resisting temptation, and staying “out of” trouble, but being proactive to prune our spiritual lives into growing, blossoms of life?  Not to mention the simple things like manners, politeness, candor, and couth…

I know I need to change.  I have so far to go, and yet I need to “catch up” with my lost time of wastefulness, and become a pillar of holiness in my family.  If you’re reading this, please pray for me to do that.  I don’t plan to preach any great sermon on the Capitol steps or the Washington Mall, but I need to become radical.  God knows, we all need to, and perhaps if his people rise up and be holy, Christ would be clearly seen as the true Messiah by all; the Immanuel.